school, school here we come!

Well I know that I have been not keeping up so well on this but there is alot going on right now, I am feeling kinds over whelmmed with my life, I am (I say me as David is not emotionally able to go to all the schools with me) trying to choose a school for next year for my boys, now both still are able to get PUF (program unit funding) which pretty much means that they can have there own aid at any place I pick! makes it all easy right NOT! I am stressing alot about this as you want the right place for each child, not the one you get busing too only, in my mind if you have to drive thats what you do!
so for little Joshua as he is going to be 4 he is second year of PUF (you are allowed 3) but this is your last year before kindergarten! so you want the right place to build and shape so you can do kindergarten, even with your own aid but you can do it without it being too much if that makes sense...so I have 2 schools I am trying to pick between for him, now both of these Dallin could go too but it would be a bit different but I will go there..
1. was Beacon Heights.....there instructional focus is "meaningful communication" I have many reason I like this school, they seemed very much on top of things which was nice, it is a smaller school and when I asked if they were allowed extra sensory time, the Principal was like oh yes, if they need it we work it in!
2. was Homesteader.....there instructional focus is "language comprehension" this school was friendly but my instant thought was not right for my boys but they do have some good part about it! so I am still looking at it all, my reason for this was if I compared the 2 schools the first one seems that they would understand Joshua the best and that is sooooooooooooooo important! so David and i will do the school visits together to see if he gets the same feelings that I am!

now for our Dallin, I am still very very lost I have a few more schools to look at, homesteader will not work for him as they would put him in with second years and I don't think that will challenge him enough! and Beacon Heights does have a program but that would change his other in home programing and that is something that I really need to look at if that makes sense!
I am also looking at King Edward school as they deal with kids with Autism...which I know many have comments about but I believe there is a reason for every type of program, someones child may need this and it may be mine, I am going to go look at it next week
I also called our community elementary school, Overlanders, they lady seemed a little stressed when I talked to her, she just kept saying you need to talk to Jim who is the Asst. Principal....I am very scared to put him in a regular classroom, I am not sure how he would do he is still delayed on many levels, but advanced on many others

I am a parent that believes in letting my child become the best they are, I know we will fail at times, and that life is not always going to be easy but I am not sure I agree with the public system in sayin put them in a normal class and if they don't do well you can pull them out and put them some where else, is it not better to help them do there best and slowly move them into normal programs? just a ton going through my mind on all of this, as soon as this all gets settled a bit I will update the rest of my life!